8 Ways to Know if You are Both in Love
Posted: Tuesday, January 26, 2010
by efoghorjos
jossyhealth
Being in Love is such a complex and confusing subject that people end up mistaking other things for it. There are however things you should look out for in people that would indicate if they are in love. According to Hunt, there are questions to ask that would really give the individuals an idea whether they are in love. But I have deliberately changed those questions to statements:
2. Each treats the nest person as special: When the individual begins to see the nest person as special (or treats him/her as such), it is also an indication that what is between them is not just mere feeling but Love. The person you love means something so special to you.
3. Love to give than to take: If you begin to love to give to your partner than just getting from him/her, then you are in love. True love is not selfish; it considers the nest person first before oneself. Unlike true love, when you are not in love you think of grabbing as much as you can from your partner: you wouldn't be considerate toward him.
4. You get along together: When you are in love you get along together without frictions, fights, bitter disagreements, jealousy, teasing or harsh criticisms, etc. When the afore-mentioned characterize your relationship, then it is not love.
5. You see your partner as being a part of you: When you do not see your partner as being a part of you, or you still treat him/her as a stranger it means you are not in love, otherwise your partner would no longer be seen as a foreign body that should be treated any how. If you are truly in love whatever affects your partner affects you as well because you now share values, emotions and pains together.
6. Happier alone than with friends: If the presence of your spouse makes you happier than the presence of visitors, strangers or other friends would do then you can rest assured that you are in love. The reverse is true if the presence of strangers or other friends makes you happier.
7.You are totally honest to each other: One basic fact that would prove you are in love is honesty; you would be open to your partner- no more telling of lies, keeping of special secrets or finding it difficult to confide in your partner. You are ready to trust him/her with your secrets without any fear of betrayal.
8. No more interested in secret dating: when you are truly in love you are ready to sacrifice all other secondary or secret relationships in order to keep what you presently have because it is very important to you and you would not want to risk anything that would make you loose it. If you can comfortably be dating secretly without any thought or fear of being caught or without having the thought of the possibility of jeopardizing your current relationship, then you are not truly in love.
Efoghor Joseph Ezie is a registered nurse with years of practical experience. He is also experienced in marriage counselling. For more of his articles visit http://jossy-love-and-marriage.blogspot.com
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Top-level comments on this article: (1 total)Great article on love. Good guidelines on trying to distinguish between true love and infatuation.
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